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I have to say, I'm impressed with the quote I'm adding below.   One father takes on a dual care moment with his two girls and shares the picture online, (see it here, it really is adorable).  What he received was many sweet comments, which he says he appreciates, but also feels he shouldn't receive attention for something dads are suppose to do.   

Here is one of his quotes:

"Until we can get to the point where men and women can complete the same parenting tasks and the reactions are the same, we will have problems. If you want to create a statue for me for taking care of my daughters, create one for the moms who are doing the same damn thing every day for their kids without receiving a 'Thank you' or an 'Ooooh' or 'Ahhhh.' These behaviors should be expected of moms and dads. No exceptions."

There were also not-so-kind comments as well, but it seems this dad is also handling that pretty well, too. 

Do you have a honey at home that can care for home and kids as well as you can? 

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My husband is actually better with the kids than I am.  He is in charge of getting the four oldest ready for school and dropping them off in the morning.  He will also be a SAHD of the twins so that I can go back to work.  He also is in charge of housework and laundry leaving cooking as the only chore for me (he really can't cook but that is OK).  Of course, his work from home flexible schedule makes it easier for him to do these things but he truly enjoys spending the time with the kids.

It sounds like you hit the man lottery!   Great to hear  :) 

MonsterMom said:

My husband is actually better with the kids than I am.  He is in charge of getting the four oldest ready for school and dropping them off in the morning.  He will also be a SAHD of the twins so that I can go back to work.  He also is in charge of housework and laundry leaving cooking as the only chore for me (he really can't cook but that is OK).  Of course, his work from home flexible schedule makes it easier for him to do these things but he truly enjoys spending the time with the kids.

No, not really. I do most of everything for the kids, and the whole family. If I leave for more than a couple of hours, I come home to dishes and laundry piled up, and if the kids did eat, it was fast food and ice-cream, soda, candy, etc.

My husband has been helping with the drop-off/pick/up from school lately, since he hasn't been traveling as much, and he has brushed my daughter's hair a few times.

I still feel like we have very old-fashioned roles in my house (dad works, mom does everything else). It didn't bother me so much until I went back to work! I feel like the family should be sharing the household workload more now that I am not home as often.

I LOVE that quote! LOVE IT!

Yeah it's great when dads help out. Yeah it's cute and awwww inspiring. But it is frustrating that it's something dads receive attention for when it's something they really should be doing.

Until very recently I handled everything kid related. Dr apps, buses, laundry, assignments, bed time, bath time, dinner, dishes, etc etc etc. I won't get into why things changed, but so far in the last month, they have. Dad is cooking dinner most nights, doing dishes most of the time, making sure school uniforms are ready & taking some of the kids to their bus stops. Just today I called him and said I found out I need to go in early tomorrow for a special event at work, could he handle bus runs - he jumped right on it and questioned if I thought he'd say no. He's said no in the past, so yeah, I wasn't sure. We'll see if it lasts, but am I posting pics and giving him kudos for helping out? Hell no! He's doing what an equal partner should have been doing all along.

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