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Judd: Age of Consent Left No Choice in Teen Arrests

I'm really wondering what my fellow parents are thinking of in this case.

Two girls, one 14, the other 15, appears to have double dated (known by the girls' parents) two 18 year old young men. A deputy found the four in one vehicle, the 14 year old naked and the 15 year old pulling up her underwear and pants according to the report.

The young men were arrested.  Do you think they should be left with titles of molesters?

Your thoughts?

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I have no sympathy either. A 14 yr old with an 18 yr old - eeewww factor kicking in for me. I agree with Odd Woman, 18 is an adult, 14/15 is not - and shame on the parents. They should be charged with contributing to the deliquency of a minor or something.
This article hit home with me for my own reasons. I believe they should be locked up. Even if it was consensual it is truly date rape as girls at this age are easily influenced and the men know better. The sad thing is that they will get a slap on the hand because they fall under the Romeo and Juliet Law as the girls admitted to it being consensual.
Okay first of all I don't think these boys should be labeled or kicked out of school. Second of all what do you think was going to happen when you WILLINGLY let your 14 & 15 year old daughters go on a double date with 18 year old BOYS. Yes they are still boys they are immature little boys. Something is wrong if a girl at age 14 & 15 are comfortable enough to be NAKED in front of any boy. I do have a 15 year old daughter and NO she is not allowed to date and NO she would not have been ALLOWED to go on a date with an 18 year old boy. This is very sad for all involved. The girls did admit it was consensual so take them in a room and question them without their parents influence and see what they really say.
This is exactly why 9th graders don't belong in school with seniors. 9th grade still belongs in junior high, as it used to be called. That being said, I wish the parents could be charged. If you allow your 14-15 yr old daughters to go out with 18 year old boys you've got to know this could happen.
As for the boys being left with the title of molesters? Definitely the one with the 14 year old, possibly the one with the 15 year old. You cannot give informed consent at 14 especially. If the girls were 16 then I would say no. One caveat: there should be a way to have the molester title reversed if they don't reoffend for say 15 years. Many of these cases are teenage stupidity and should not follow them for the rest of their lives. For victims 13 and under there should not be a way for the molester title to be reversed.
As a mother with 2 sons makes you think about this and my opinion about this , is yes there should be some kind of punishment. But at the boy's age they should have know better. But as a women , now I remember what I did at the ages the girls were and I knew better. So if there is punishment it should be for all 4 kids. To put the boys on a registered sexual offenders list is harsh. But the law is the law and if the parents of the girls knew about the date and let there daughters go out with young men with hormones that is hard to control.( don't let the girls out in the world of feel good.) then they should be in the came jail as the boys. The girls should feel some of the punishment also.
I agree with T - not date rape. Date rape is without consent. That's a huge differnence.

While I have no sympathy, I don't think they should be labeled as molesters the rest of their lives.
I understand that the law is the law and blah blah blah. Do I think these boys deserve to be punished? Maybe, but nothing more than some sort of indecent exposure (this goes for the girls also), but they should not have the rest of their lives ruined over this by being registered sex offenders. While some may disagree, I think the maturity level of an 18 y/o boy and a 14 or 15 y/o girl is probably about the same and I don't really see the problem in dating someone with that small of an age gap. For me this just boils down to a case of horny teenagers. When I was a teenager with raging hormones and started dating, my parents expected me to behave myself when I went out. My morals came from my parents. Had this consensual fondling happened to me, my mama would've torn my azz up for being a little floozy.
18 year old boys are looking for sex...14 and 15 year old girls are looking for love and will do what ever it takes to get it.

Angela said:
I understand that the law is the law and blah blah blah. Do I think these boys deserve to be punished? Maybe, but nothing more than some sort of indecent exposure (this goes for the girls also), but they should not have the rest of their lives ruined over this by being registered sex offenders. While some may disagree, I think the maturity level of an 18 y/o boy and a 14 or 15 y/o girl is probably about the same and I don't really see the problem in dating someone with that small of an age gap. For me this just boils down to a case of horny teenagers. When I was a teenager with raging hormones and started dating, my parents expected me to behave myself when I went out. My morals came from my parents. Had this consensual fondling happened to me, my mama would've torn my azz up for being a little floozy.
As the mother of two teenaged girls (14 & 16) I have to say that as a parent there is NO way I would allow my 14 year old daughter to go on a date with an 18 year old. My 16 year old? Maybe. That being said, I believe it is my job as a parent to teach my kids right from wrong, to teach my girls to value themselves and have a positive self image. The difference in maturity levels for girls and boys is huge. In all reality, a 15 year old girl is probably as mature as an 18 year old boy. As a parent, only you can know if your daughter is mature enough and equipped to deal with these type of situations. In my opinion these boys should NOT be labeled as sex offenders. Do I think they should get off scott free? No. However, it takes two. Both girls said it was consensual. It would be very sad to see these two young men's lives essentially ruined with a label like this. To me, we are responsible as parents for our children. PERIOD.
I don't think they should be left with the title of molesters - it seems as though they had promising college & pro careers prospectives. Unfortunately kids grow up too fast in today's society and 14/15 y/os are thinking like 25 y/os. 18 y/o boys will be boys - yes i know that sounds cliche' but they are seniors in high school and were probably dating freshman. The girls probably wanted the noteriarty (spelling?) that goes along with dating a "jock" - "superstar", whatever term you want to use; while hoping they are the boys "one and only"...

I agree with whoever said the charges are very harsh; this was not date rape as the girls said it was consensual, but I'll be damned if I know my 14 y/o daughter is going out with an 18 y/o!! AT the same time I can't fault it - that was and is still me!!! My husband is 10 years older than I (as mentioned before) and he'd probably be in the same boat in high school because he has a thing for younger women, and I know he dated lil freshman girls.
This date was with the parents' knowledge. They willingly let their 14 and 15 year old daughters go out with 18 year old MEN.

Idiots. And now they're prosecuting?

Idiots.

And yes, the boys need to be punished for being all kinds of STUPID. But they don't need to have the title of "molester" hung around their necks for life. It's sad when teenage stupidity (and parental irresponsibility) becomes criminal.

I understand more and more why my parents didn't let me date until I was 16, and then only after they'd talked to the boy's parents on the phone at least. I was so embarrassed back then... but now? Oh yeah, I'm totally doing it myself to my sons. And they're getting the riot act read to them about statutory rape, etc. I don't care how much they yell "Mo-om!! We're not even doing it!!!"

I should have stuck with cats *sigh*.
i am a mother of a 20 yr old daughter an a 14yr old son never would i let my daughter date or even talk to a 18yr old when she was 14 or 15. The parents who let their daughters go with these young men need to answer to the law, what kind of world are we living in when we allow our children to tell us what to do? I already have 14 an 15 yr old girls telling my son what they want to do with him so just think how bad it will be when he gets 18(Lord help me). Don't charge the boys charge the parents!

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