Connecting moms in Polk County, Fla.
sorry about your misfortune.
don't be so trusting from now on.
Most catastrophic head gasket failure is sudden and without warning. Most failures at sustained high speeds (interstate driving) are due to loss of water circulation and the resulting severe overheating. You didn't say how old the car was, but with only 64,000 miles on it and elderly drivers, I would bet the car hasn't seen much sustained high speed driving recently. Did you have a mechanic check the car over before you bought it? Did you check the water level and cooling system before you drove it on the interstate? Did you even look at the temperature gauge? I wouldn't be so quick to blame your neighbor. Unless he had knowledge of a head gasket leak (and that's highly unlikely) I don't know why you would expect him to buy back a broken car that he did not break. Cheated? I highly doubt it. Sounds like a sob story to me. BTW: Why are you having another child if you can't afford it?
Just some brainstorming, not from personal experience, but ....
Can you take it to one of those lots that say they will buy your car even if you don't buy theirs?
And I wonder where people sell their scrap metal for $$ you hear about people doing that.
If you are in college (you mentioned school), you might check with the financial aid office for a scholarship.
What about your parents, maybe they can help.
Good luck. It's hard out there in this economy.
I would hope that a neighbor of 10 yrs wouldn't deliberately sell you a car that he knew would break down, especially with you having little ones and being pregnant. I don't think he would do that, unless you have some reason to suspect he doesn't like you and tried to set you up. If that is the case, then I wouldn't buy anything from him.
I think this was just a case of an older person maybe not keeping up with the maintenance on his car...or like others have said...it was just bad timing, or the car was not usually driven on highways and reacted accordingly.
I probably would have confided in him that I was stuck on 1-4 and calmly explained what happened...not making any accusations or asking for money back. I would ask if he ever noticed any problems with the car..or when was the last time he had mainenance done, explaining the situation. If I were that neighbor, seeing your situation, I would probably feel really bad and perhaps offer to help pay for the repairs...or to give you a ride somewhere, but I don't think I would offer to buy the car back...especially if you had a mechanic look at it, and there was no indication that anything was wrong with it. In my situation, if I were to sell a car today, I would be SO grateful and that money would be gone immediately (towards MANY bills). I imagine most people are in the same situation these days. He probably used that money to pay bills, and couldn't give it back to you if he wanted to.
Feel free to vent to us. I may not agree that he should give you your money back, but I still understand your frustration. I hope your neighbor can at least lend a helping hand.